A bit disturbed during challenge mtg last week. Out of surprise one of the Dept Head proposed to Director that we should define who should be in the mtg (pointing at the 3 stooges from ED). We know that we are not supposed to be there if not because of text from our Head requesting us to be in as he was away on overseas trip. It’s not that we like to be there but most importantly the responsibility it carries to our guys who struggled tirelessly through out the year without a blink of hope to be rewarded. But humane concern overrules everything else.
Sure, definitely you should be in but with the absence of our Head who else is going to fight for our guys? Although you didn’t commit any sin here but the other person is finding it really hard to accept what you say.
Of course, you're not the one who is answerable to the grievances later. The thing is, when doing out much needed advice, we have to control how we express our self. We got to speak like we understand them and empathies with their situation. Even if we have been through it all before.
Usually, when people we know come up to us to let out their anxiety or burning questions, we tend to get all riled up at their predicament because we care. If it's about us, definitely it tempers with our rationale and makes us give answers that are biased and emotional. We use our heart instead of our logic. Thus, what comes out of our mouth holds absolutely no weight.
Therefore, before gritting your teeth and deeming someone just because they are no good enough for you or may be because they won't listen to you, do listen to yourself first.